tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post1545603790820949628..comments2023-11-02T09:33:19.287-04:00Comments on LIFE'S LOST AND FOUND: Allisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14454614846316780913noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post-85693126155744283602008-10-23T00:10:00.000-04:002008-10-23T00:10:00.000-04:00Okay, first of all, I miss you. Please let me kno...Okay, first of all, I miss you. Please let me know when lock-down ends. If you went to church, does that mean is it all clear? I do have a 20 month old so I know that puts us behind for visits but we are dying to see Isaac!<BR/><BR/>Okay, on to the sleep issue. Whenever it kills you to leave him, just remember you are teaching him to sleep well. This means that you have to allow him to learn to go to sleep on his own. Now, I say this all cautiously because Ella seemed to pick this up fairly well. I only had a couple of evenings in tears. :) <BR/><BR/>I had a college roommate who had a super hard time getting herself to sleep...so I am a big advocate for helping Isaac learn! I really believe it is a gift to Isaac and to you both.<BR/><BR/>Things that helped us - <BR/><BR/>Routine - We did the SAME thing to go to bed every night...still do. Book (even at 12 weeks! your voice is soothing), prayers, nurse (sang the same song), light out, sound machine on, lots of kisses and into bed. When she would wake up in the night, I would just do the same routine (maybe skip book and all that) to signal to her it was sleep time.<BR/><BR/>Taking care of Puffs is important but it is pretty likely you will have to commit to a couple nights of tears to help Isaac learn. Give Puff some earplugs and a pillow for the couch for a few nights. Or try it on a weekend.<BR/><BR/>Books that helped:<BR/>Healthy Sleep Habits for a Happy Child (LOVED this)<BR/><BR/>People often recommend BabyWise but it was a bit too intense on the cry-it-out for me. I still read it and found it gave me some good pointers even if I didn't adopt it in full.<BR/><BR/>Yay for long posts to help each other.<BR/><BR/>Love ya!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post-40678069015240125862008-10-22T07:11:00.000-04:002008-10-22T07:11:00.000-04:00i was just thinking about you and wondering how yo...i was just thinking about you and wondering how you are doing! good to hear from you. sorry things have been rough... hopefully you've hit your stride now.heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189681765878198476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post-60170505664288366232008-10-21T23:19:00.000-04:002008-10-21T23:19:00.000-04:00i cant give you any advice in the baby department ...i cant give you any advice in the baby department but already you seem to be such an awesome mom!Jim and Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13251699587621835032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post-42749920189722446672008-10-21T19:56:00.000-04:002008-10-21T19:56:00.000-04:00wow. is that a comment above mine?I thought it was...wow. is that a comment above mine?<BR/>I thought it was part of your post. lol<BR/><BR/>But I have to totally agree with Glenna. She is so RIGHT! PUT HIM DOWN AWAKE!!! It is crucial! He is now 12 weeks and can learn to put himself to sleep.<BR/><BR/>(Wait...weren't you that friend that told me you would be able to easily put your baby in their crib and let them cry and it wouldn't bother you?) What happened....You became a MOM!!!<BR/><BR/>The problem is, if you continue to rock him to sleep (which you can totally do sometimes, it is a special time, just not always) he will get so dependent on that. In the end, he will be happier that he has put himself to sleep. They need that down time.<BR/><BR/>I put Abel down wide awake in his crib. He tells me "bye" and he plays for a good 15-20 minutes (which is awesome b/c it buys me more "me time") and then puts himself to sleep. (He humps his blanket for like 10 minutes before he can go to sleep while singing the abc's)HAHAHA!!!<BR/><BR/>Ok, well now my comment is as long as Glenna! :)<BR/><BR/>Put him down awake. He will thank you for it later.Julie Nickersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213451148322117669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077503581228824116.post-63566712724070932472008-10-21T17:36:00.000-04:002008-10-21T17:36:00.000-04:00Girl, you just HAVE to grit your teeth and do it! ...Girl, you just HAVE to grit your teeth and do it! You're teaching him the difference between night and day which you WILL appreciate later!! I'm not feeding in the middle of the night anymore (we just recently dropped that last feeding) but I would certainly put Isaiah down awake--I do it even when it's not in the middle of the night. Naptime and bedtime--he goes down awake. This is a PRICELESS thing that I learned from friends and from a controversial baby book. Isaiah would fuss at first, but not anymore. He will be WIDE awake when we lay him down (sometimes drowsy) and he will just look around (or now he plays with his blanket) until he gets tired and goes to sleep. It's MAGICAL and all because we put him down awake from the VERY beginning. It's not too late to start, though! Don't feel bad--you are teaching him to go to sleep on his own. He's not lonely--he doesn't realize he's by himself yet. ;) <BR/>Isaiah IS on a roll right now of being WIDE awake and ready to squeal (and you know how loud this is after watching the video!) at 5 or 6 am!! I don't know what's up! I just pop that pacifier in and he'll settle down and go to sleep. <BR/><BR/>The paci thing is a blessing and a curse. He wakes up sometimes wanting it--usually a few times each night. He's not hungry--he just wants his paci. It's a dream that he takes one when we're in public and he's fussy or something, but....I can't decide if we'll use one with the next one (if the Lord blesses us again through adoption). <BR/><BR/>Isaiah is SOoooo cute at his middle of the night partying, too, but it was coming down to me losing my sanity over lack of sleep or me learning to put him in bed and leave him there. I don't rock him back to sleep because I want him to be able to go to sleep on his own. And he does, thankfully. I even started sleeping without the monitors on now that we've hit 4 months and I'm not so concerned about SIDS anymore. I hear him if he cries, but I can now ignore all the other little noises that were keeping me up at night. <BR/><BR/>Hope that is helpful. I'd love to sit with our boys over some large cups of coffee and talk and talk about being new moms. :)glenna marshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18348224654818247656noreply@blogger.com